35 Dumb Things Well-Intended People Say: Surprising Things We Say That Widen the Diversity Gap

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EVEN WELL-INTENDED PEOPLE CAN CAUSE HARM Have you ever ever heard your self or another person say: “”A few of my greatest mates are… (Black, White, Asian, and so on.)””? “”I do not consider you as… (Homosexual, Disabled, Jewish, and so on.)””? “”I do not see colour, I am colorblind””? These statements and dozens like them can construct a divide between us and the folks we work together with. Although well-intended, they typically widen the range hole generally inflicting irreparable hurt personally and professionally. In the event you’ve ever wished to be more practical in your communication with others, or have been afraid of claiming the mistaken factor, then this concise information is important to turning into extra inclusive and diversity-smart. A POWERFUL DIVERSITY TRAINING TOOL FROM ONE OF THE MOST RESPECTED DIVERSITY TRAINERS.

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  1. justgot4

    Love it. Feel like I was reading my life story, who knew I was so well-intended. I’m adding that to my resume.

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  2. Amazon Customer

    Common sense for those that lack a supply of it. We live in a time that requires common sense and courage.****

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  3. Feedback CNC

    I heard the author speak in 2018 and this book is a light read. I work in HR and have given this book to managers in the US and the UK. The Point is easily taken and behavior changes are immediate. The author gives examples like “I have a friend who is ….” Explains why that is not ideal.. and offers an alternative.. if I could give this 10 stars I would. We’re giving this as prizes for BlackHistory Month activity at work

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  4. J. Simpson

    Wow…it has been a long time since I have waited for a book like this—simple to follow, easy to understand, helpful rather than accusatory or blaming….and finally….expresses the need for compassion while still addressing the situation!–Congrats—I must have for anyone doing diversity work.–jds

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  5. Book Buzz

    While a little out of date (the Supreme Court legalized gay marriage since this was written), it is perfect for helping colleagues who say things they should not. It explains what the ramifications are of saying something “dumb” but well intended, how it impacts the message receiver, and what to do when (not if) they say something they should not. Easy to read and digest.

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  6. Amazon Customer

    Arrived in excellent condition.

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  7. Katy JK

    This book is right to the point, provides good analogies and relatable stories to fill in concepts and suggestions. It is an easy read; and a great opener to broadening one’s ability to overcome communication barriers when it comes to healing and empowering those of us who have been disadvantaged.

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  8. Carol Kidd

    A must read!! My organization bought 70 copies for staff.

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  9. Amazon Customer

    This was an easy, compassionate, down-to-earth read that I thoroughly enjoyed and highly recommend if you’re wondering why you “can’t” say certain things. Unfortunately, the editor left too many errors in this to make it a smooth read. But still get it.

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  10. Stacey J. Davidson

    Love this book!!

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  11. Katy JK

    This book is right to the point, provides good analogies and relatable stories to fill in concepts and suggestions. It is an easy read; and a great opener to broadening one’s ability to overcome communication barriers when it comes to healing and empowering those of us who have been disadvantaged.

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  12. Feedback CNC

    I heard the author speak in 2018 and this book is a light read. I work in HR and have given this book to managers in the US and the UK. The Point is easily taken and behavior changes are immediate. The author gives examples like “I have a friend who is ….” Explains why that is not ideal.. and offers an alternative.. if I could give this 10 stars I would. We’re giving this as prizes for BlackHistory Month activity at work

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  13. Richard

    Excellent book!

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  14. F. Gove

    If you are looking for a book to help you better understand social awareness and diversity – this is it! Dr. Cullen clearly, and without accusation, teaches how to better communicate with others when it comes to diversity and the things even the well-intended person says. Her solutions are logical, compassionate, and non-combative. It is a quick read, and a good read! It is a book every human being should read and one from which every person will learn and benefit.

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  15. Amazon Customer

    Loved loved loved everything about this read! I highly suggest for anyone willing to dive deeper into human connections!

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  16. Chrys

    Came on time, basically brand new. No issues!

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  17. idols

    This is a must have for everyone. The book is so motivating. It empowers everyone to be more aware of their words choices and offers realistic and helpful tips to helps us overcome those difficult situations when a friend makes an inappropriate comment. Easy read. Highly recommended for everyone’s book shelve.

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  18. Mo Sigler

    I believe this book is so very relevant even when working with college students in 2023. I have found only two or three incidents/examples that date the book. Those are references to the O.J. Simpson trial, same sex couples unable to marry, and 9/11 and how Arabs were treated. If it were to be updated today, mention of gender-identity, and pronouns would be relevant as would examples of the changing landscape for women’s health.Far too often, even 15 years after this book was published, I hear people using the offensive phrases featured in this book.I highly recommend “35 dumb things well-intended people say.”

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  19. Dave Messier

    Needs to be updated a bit, as references ro GLBT community seemed a bit out of date, and predated the SCOTUS ruling legalizing same sex marriage in the USOtherwise, a helpful guide to those trying to avoid saying some of these “dumb things.”

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  20. JB2JC

    Good read. Focuses on patience, understanding, and compassion. Three ideas we should all remember in every interaction with our fellow humans.

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  21. K. Poppe

    This book was incredibly insightful, bringing into focus ideas and concepts that I hadn’t fully pieced together in the past. I would recommend this quick read to everyone, I cannot think of a single person who wouldn’t benefit from the information in this book! Dr. Cullen’s words have stuck with me and I have since modified the way I communicate with others, keeping in mind the core concepts she presents.

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  22. Sherry B

    Good stuff

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  23. MM

    works

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  24. Mindy Morris

    Wow, this helped me understand I have a long way to go as a well-intentioned person. An easy read with applicable advice.

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  25. FC_Griz

    Great condition

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  26. Dukes 05

    There are some parts of the book I don’t agree with and the layout is a little funky at times. There are some fantastic quotes that stand alone on a single page but they are entered in the middle of sentences. It eventually got a little annoying. Other than that. Dr. Maural Cullen provides an excellent space to start to think about what we mean to say and how our statements are actually heard – intent v. impact.Dr. Cullen is also an excellent presenter/speaker. I strongly recommend attending a session by Dr. Cullen or inviting her to present for your organization. She is fantastic!

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  27. K. McLoud-Schingen

    As a trainer/facilitator on Global Diversity, this book gives me language and stories that speak to the issue of inclusive vs. exclusive communication with candor, yet sensitivity. It’s an easy read that is clear and concise. It’s not bogged down with trying to be academic pedagogy. I highly recommend this book for cross cultural understanding!

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  28. Rev Carl Horton

    This is an incredibly practical resource and an easy way to get at intent and impact. The core concepts are concise and spot on! I’m going to use several of these with Presbyterian congregations that want to become more culturally effective and go from meaning well to doing well. Maura Cullen breaks it down and makes it doable.

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  29. K27

    Very clearly and concisely written, would recommend

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  30. James Real

    Read in one sittng. Found it to be very informative.

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  31. Shannon R. Mccullough

    I LOVED this book. Very insightful. Like Maura said in the book, there were things that I have said that were mention and I was completely surprised, and a little ashamed that I have made these well-intended remarks and not realizing how incredibly dumb they are. I am responsible for educating my students on embracing diversity and acceptance of others and I, along with many student affairs professionals, fail to realize that we are not completely aware of our own faults and we are not above receiving this type of education. We need to be reviewing our own stance on diversity as we teach it to others.Another aspect that I liked is that she provided game plans or “best bets”. At our university we discuss diversity issues and report on where our departments stand in our goals to increase awareness, but my issue has always been that we rarely discuss plans of action. It is great to report out on your successes but it is just as important to discuss our downfalls and how we plan to overcome them. This book provided me with that. I am going to require this book for all of my students!

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  32. Book Buzz

    While a little out of date (the Supreme Court legalized gay marriage since this was written), it is perfect for helping colleagues who say things they should not. It explains what the ramifications are of saying something “dumb” but well intended, how it impacts the message receiver, and what to do when (not if) they say something they should not. Easy to read and digest.

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  33. Dukes 05

    There are some parts of the book I don’t agree with and the layout is a little funky at times. There are some fantastic quotes that stand alone on a single page but they are entered in the middle of sentences. It eventually got a little annoying. Other than that. Dr. Maural Cullen provides an excellent space to start to think about what we mean to say and how our statements are actually heard – intent v. impact.Dr. Cullen is also an excellent presenter/speaker. I strongly recommend attending a session by Dr. Cullen or inviting her to present for your organization. She is fantastic!

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  34. Sherrilynne Comly

    This book has help open my eyes to some of the simplest things I have said, and never gave much thought too. In my opinion, everyone should read this, it will have you think more before you open your mouth and place your foot in it.

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  35. J. Parr

    By the end it’s been a little repetitive, but that’s not bad. It means there are some general principles to be learned about how comments affect others that can be applied to situations not exactly covered in the 25.

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