Lack of Mom, Bereavement, and Transferring On
“I want I had learn this earlier than I misplaced my mother a number of years in the past and an expensive pal quickly after…” –Nina Lesowitz, writer of Residing Life as a Thank You
#1 Greatest Vendor in Grief & Bereavement, Obsessive Compulsive Dysfunction, and Self-Esteem
The grieving course of. Ty Alexander of Beautiful in Gray is without doubt one of the prime bloggers at this time with an exquisite private connection along with her readers. That is by no means extra obvious than when she speaks about her mom. The ache of loss for mourners is common. But, all of us grieve in a different way. For Alexander, the grieving course of is one which she lives with day-to-day. Studying from her ache, she connects along with her readers on a deeply emotional degree in her e-book, Issues I Want I Knew Earlier than My Mother Died: Dealing with Loss Each Day. From grief counseling to sharing insightful true tales, Alexander affords consolation, reassurance, and hope within the face of sorrow.
Dealing with loss. In her early 20’s actuality smacked Ty within the face. She was ailing geared up to take care of the emotional and mental rollercoaster of coping with her mother’s sickness. By way of her personal trial and error, she discovered a option to be a caregiver, affected person advocate, researcher, and a grieving daughter. She wrote Issues I Want I Knew Earlier than My Mother Died to assist others discover the “finest” option to cope and transfer on, nevertheless one personally decides what meaning.
Mourning and remembrance. Within the chapters of this soul-touching e-book, mourners discover which means and knowledge in grieving and the love that all the time stays.
Inside this comforting and insightful e-book discover:
- Assist with the ache of dropping a cherished one
- Help in understanding the grieving course of
- Consolation and assist whereas studying the way to transfer on
When you’ve got learn grief and bereavement books similar to Notes on Grief, Grief Day by Day, or Discovering That means, you’ll want to learn Issues I Want I Knew Earlier than My Mother Died.
Barb –
Has some things mentioned in book that I wouldn’t have thought about such as making a voice recording before parent dies. I really miss my mom’s voice and that would have been wonderful to have. I have already made a folder for funeral pre-planning etc. I gave the book to my daughter so she could read it and think about items she wants clarified or whatever before I go. A good overall planning guide for those who haven’t started that discussion with their children. Not a boo-hoo book at all.
Kim Causley – Cazallis –
Great book!!! Very on point!!!
amy –
I bought this for my sister in law after she lost her mother to cancer, and she loves it. She refers to it often when discussing her experience and said it helped her a lot.
Evelyn Inya-agha –
The one year anniversary of my mommy’s death is coming and all of the emotions in the book ring true e for me. My mommy was my truck and her love b gave me confidence beyond measure. I miss her so much and learning to do life without her is hard. Thus book really spoke to me
DeMetria Lynia –
Amazing book. My mom passed away when I was younger, but as I have gotten older I have had many of the same thoughts and feelings.
Nathaniel –
Well written with a comforting & humorous view of grief & healing.
Coco Lewis –
Great read for those who have lost their moms.
AJ Wimberly –
A great read! Discovered through social media… really real, and relatable content. Thoroughly enjoyed.
Tyrissa Yvonne –
This book helps you to understand that you’re not alone in the fight. When you lose spmeone that you love you will hurt, more than what everyone says and you have to take the time to do you so that you can keep pushing!
rockbaby1978 –
I’ve read a few other books about losing a mother and this is one of the most concise books on loss and grief that I’ve read. My mama died 14 years ago and as Ty stated several times throughout, the grief never really leaves it just changes form. Somehow Ty managed to capture all of my exact thoughts and feelings as I continue to create a “new normal” in the absence of my mother. I appreciate her willingness to open her heart to share her experience. I’ve found myself having to offer suggestions on grief to a lot of friends and this is a book I’ll be buying for others. Lastly, while she speaks about losing her mom, this book can apply to any loss because I found myself sometimes writing in my grandparents names in various places.
Yana L –
This was such a needed companion when my grandmother passed away. It’s the companion who talks you through the not so unique experience of losing a loved one. I have reread it several times- first go round required breaks for tissues or just time in general. Highly recommend!
Mershon Niesner –
Profound statements that will make a difference in your life. A must read for those who have experienced mother loss.
Amazon Customer –
This book was very insightful & helpful. I lost my moma in July 2015 and I’m still grieving, trying to find my new normal.
Beautiful –
Great read, very insightful
MP –
I love the tone that Alexander writes in, this book helped me accept the loss of my mother. It also helped me come to terms with the guilt I had for so long. I felt like I was having a conversation with Alexander. Every experience with loss of a parent is unique but I identified with this book. ‘Things I Wish I Knew…’ is a book that I would recommend to anyone who has experienced the loss of a parent, I would also read it again.
Erma Burstion –
Love the transparency of Ty, and her ability to tell a story!
summer breeze –
Losing a parent can be surprisingly terrible, even if the relationship wasn’t as close as the author had with her mom. I wasn’t sure i related to her story, but found myself drawn in, and somewhat comforted by, her courageous honesty about loss and grief. Regardless of our own stories of grief, this sense of loss is universal. This book is full of the wisdom that just might get you back to the land if the living, and finding your joy and gratitude again .
cyndi hettesheimer –
After the loss of my mother this book was a great read and brought me great comfort
Melissa A. Yusinski –
Author writes very well, very down to earth. Makes you realize what you are feeling and experiencing is completely normal.
Janell Nichole thomas –
This was recommended to me and it’s a good read.
Miss Moore –
Although my mom was passed in 2011 I still found a few gems in this book. It’s good to know that some of the things I went through I wasn’t alone.
E –
A good read and very relatable! After almost 20 years of mom passing all the things that are written are true. Happy reading!
Lyndia –
This small, gentle, book brought me so much comfort. I realized that after one year of mourning my Mom, I reached another level that called for a slightly additional need from losing Her. Ty Alexander fills a giant hole that benefits from her own experiences. Thanks Ms. Alexander for being published with your helpful insights. Excellent book.
GE918 –
I loved every bit of this book. It helped me understand that grief is truly a process and a personal journey in life after the death of a love one.
idaida –
Love it thank you so much came early to
Allen714 –
Felt like I was talking to a friend! I was able to relate to a lot of what Ty said and went through. Very comforting book in a time of need!
Orangeone22 –
This book was a good read. Having lost my mom a few years ago, I could really relate.
Krystal –
I have lost my mother three years ago. It feels nice to know I am not alone in my feelings and know it’s okay! You are truly a inspiration. Thank you
Damara Reid –
This was an amazing read. I finished It in one day. I am so thankful to have found this book that has helped with dealing with the recent loss of my mother
Veronica –
Just a good understanding of losing. A loved one. Be it mom. Dad. Husband. ToMe. First time in years, I picked upA pen a underlined thoughts in books. I will re read this.
Tiffany –
This book has helped me since I lost my mom to cancer 4 months ago. Very relatable, smiling moments, and a friend during the grief journey.
Kim McCarter –
This was one of the this most inspiring reads of the fall. This was more than a book on coping with loss, it was a memoir.My mother is still here with me, reading this book my Ty Alexander made me want to hug her tighter… and listen to her family stories. I don’t care if she wants to talk for six minutes or sixty – I hold the line. I cherish her for all of my friends, who cannot pick up the phone and dial heaven.Thank you for penning this. It was needed.
Jenn Cooper –
I lost my mother in June to brain cancer. Ty really hit the nail on the head. I knew I needed to deal with my grief and Ty helped. I thought it was so helpful, I sent a copy to each of my sisters. Losing a momma is hard stuff, I encourage anyone in our ‘motherless tribe’ to read this, but make sure you have tissues handy.
shauna –
I got this for my sister whose mom died when she was young. She really enjoyed the book. Thank you
Alexis Scheuplein –
This book tugged at my heart strings. October 4th will be 2 years without my mother. I learned about this book from my sister and she kept forgetting to bring it home for me to read. I ordered it and read it in a few days between school work. If you’ve lost your mom, especially at a young age, this book is for you.
MsTee –
This book is AMAZING!!
Diana Spell –
I lost my mother 1 year ago to cancer, and when a friend knew I was going through a rough grief wave, she recommended this book. It took me a few months to get through because it’s so honest and therapeutic that I needed to let Ty’s words marinate. I cried, laughed, and shouted while reading this book. It has helped me to not be “the only one without a mom” and I’m just so glad I read it. Best part is that it’s written with flavor and black girl magic sprinkled on top. If you’ve lost your mother, this is a must read!
Lola the Movement –
After losing my mother 3 years ago, I am living in a whole new world. I am crying because I never wanted this book to end. I relate to this book on so many levels. Thank you Ms. Alexander. This was a much needed journey.
Ember L Lee –
This is a great book that keeps it real about coping with the loss of your mom. The funny stories balance the enormity of the feeling of loss. I lost my mom and grandma within 9 months. This book is a great companion to my grief work.
Karen Ghilarducci –
My mom died 8 weeks ago and I am devastated beyond words. This funny and real experience that the author shares makes me feel less alone. It really resonated with me.
Leticia Gutierrez –
Helpful
Amazon Customer –
Enjoyed!
kallie –
I gave you this rating, because I am also grieving the loss of my mother, it’s been 6 months since she passed and it still doesnt feel real. I was with her when she passed and performed CPR on her for 18 minutes I am an EMT and I see death in my line of work everyday, but when it’s your mom lying there and your pumping her chest screaming at her to wake up it hits your soul in a way that it will never be repaired…although I saw her leave this world I cannot accept that shes really gone. Your book has helped me understand that there are steps one must go through and it is never going to go away but one day it will be easier. I do alot of my griefing on the way to work that’s when it hits me. I just had my son 3 months ago she did get to here his heartbeat and know he was a boy before she died and she was the best MiMi ever and it just doesnt seem fair but I always knew she would never meet my children she had heart problems and diabetes and she struggled with it for years. Any ways I just wanted you to know that your book is helping me I have read it but is still look back at it every now and then as a reminder.
Esther –
Nothing hits you like the death of your mum, whether sudden or expected. Sadly mine was unexpected in a tragic accident earlier this year involving police, paramedics, coroners and an inquest. This book came out at a time where I was searching for support and answers and I felt no one that hadn’t been through this or at least lost their mum understood.I really didn’t want to finish this book, which was difficult because it’s under 200 pages and could be finished in a day or two. I follow Ty on Insta and always admired her openness and honesty, how she writes so eloquent in the description of her experience, so honest and frank I found to be relatable, soothing and most importantly as I go through my grief, supportive and understanding.From my unaddressed feelings, endless difficulty in functioning ‘as normal’, disappointment in friends and family, dealing and coping with an accidental death – and a mother’s death in general, Things I Wish I Knew has equipped me to grow through it (even if undoubtedly I stumble many times) and I want to thank Ty for having the energy to put pen to paper to share her story and positively inspire the rest of us to grow through it too.
Lileana Ayende –
I bought it at an airport before a flight home. What a great read. The only thing i was a little put off by was the cursing a few times and the repetition of certain expressions but i learned many lessons from the book and it serves as a great example of what to do while you have your mom still alive or not. It takes you through every stage, the author really did put her heart in this book. I actually have gifted it to a few friends as well. You won’t regret buying it…
FLOREN J. LOPEZ –
Love the book – 1/2 way through but loving it. I’m finding Ty’s stories so true!
Sarah W –
I lost my mom unexpectedly and got this book soon after her death and it was spot on. Every helpful for the grieving process
Ms_NomatterwhatMs_Nomatterwhat –
I received my book this evening & finished it a little bit ago & WOW!!!!Ty has opened her heart and poured it out on just about every page for us, in a very raw & open way which I love! She shares what she has experienced & experiences daily and I found myself having several “lightbulb moments” while reading.She says the things that so many of us are afraid to say, are afraid to face, afraid to acknowledge or are afraid to do… that so many of us need to hear, see, say or do.Ty lets us know that we are not alone in feeling what we feel during our personal grieving processes and that our feelings are very valid, very real and that they are OK! And screw whomever tries to tell us otherwise(YAAASS!!!
).This book should be on every shelf in every household across the globe! Its one of those books you can revisit over and over again for strength, for encouragement, to cope & make it through the tough times, for understanding & so much more.I won’t spoil it by revealing anymore & I hope I didn’t give away too many details already but I will say one last thing…YOU ALL NEED TO PURCHASE THIS BOOK!! ASAP!!Share & Hashtag #ThingsIWishIKnew
Michael Stuck –
Must read for someone who has lots there mom great book so glad I bought it
Jackie Her –
She put into words what I have felt for years after losing my dad. I love how she wrote the book – it was like having a heart to heart with your girlfriend.
brandi –
Having joined this club two years ago I found myself struggling with my mom’s death. I thought I had it under control but it started getting difficult so I saw this book and decided to give it a try. Even though our stories are different it helped to have another person explain how she felt through it and make sense of some of the feelings I was having. She has a good way of making you laugh too. Especially the bird story!!!
Echiefab –
I carried this book literally everywhere I went including international vacations but was scared to read it because I was scared about opening up an emotional pandora’s box. Then I lost a dear friend and in the middle of a sleepless night I opened it. I AM SO GLAD I DID. Ty simply tells her story in a way we can all relate. She maintains her signature wit and invites us to expand our perspective on life and loss. AT a time when I couldn’t talk to anyone, Ty spoke straight to my heart and I actually laughed through my tears and finally get some sleep.
Ijeoma E. –
I am fortunate to not have lost a parent, but this book is so much more than just a manual on how to grieve. There are poignant nuggets of wisdom both woven throughout the book and summarized at the end of each chapter for how to be a better friend, daughter, mother, and person. Ty’s relationship with her mother is a true love story, one told in an intimate writing style that makes it seem like you and Ty are meeting up over coffee (or a cocktail!).
TINA M. FULTON –
I bought this book for my friend whose mother passed away recently. She said that it has helped her in so many ways to realize that the feelings that she has been having are perfectly normal and it has been very encouraging for her.
Christa Philson –
TyYou knocked this one out the park. I stand in unity that losing our Mom’s suck. You never get over it and it doesn’t get better. You just learn how to dance a new dance, & cope with that fact that your Mom is never coming back. Period! My motherless sister you have inspired me to do something that My Mom would bw proud of. I will keep you posted on what that something is. I love you My sister.So I thank You for shutting the enemy down with this book anr blocking every attack in my mind, and causing everything inside to be reassured that everything will work together for my good. according to Romans 8:28. I rejoice on their behalf for the supernatural breakthrough that’s coming. In Jesus name. AmenFellow Marylander,Eva’s Baby GirlChrista Philson
Mrs Joy –
Great book…I need this! Definitely encourages a stronger relationship with my daughter. I have so many highlights throughout this book and it’s something that I’ll keep coming back to for encouragement on my bad days.
aLoveForFashion –
This book is more than just coping with the death of your own mother. It is about knowing it is okay to be mad. It is okay to cry. It is okay to not want to deal with some folks, especially the ones who want to force you to see they understand with their programmed condolences. I still have my mother, but I lost my brother to cancer. TY spoke all of the words I felt in my first few years but could not express because I did not know how and did not want to deal with because I had been raised to not be emotional. This book is not your standard self help book. This book is your real rap raw friend who lets you know what you are feeling means something, and you are not alone but it is okay to feel that way some days.
Dannie Digital –
I would recommend this book to anyone who lost their mother or a loved one. Short, easy but powerful read. Well done sista!
Sandra D –
Hits home.
Aims –
Loved loved loved this book. Lost my mom around 2003 and this book helped me gather my thoughts and process what I’ve been holding inside for so long I feel like she was writing right from my experiences! Buy this book!
Dmarie333 –
This book clearly expresses the feelings I have but couldn’t put into words. I’m planning to purchase a few more copies and give to a few of my friends that have also loss their mothers. Thank you Ty Alexander for letting me know my feelings are normal.
danielle –
The loss of my mom was unexpected and the hardest thing in life. This book helped me appreciate every bit her, her past, her as a mom and then her as a woman. Recommend this for anyone going through something.
Rhonda Olney –
Good to know I’m not alone on this road of grief. This journey will take time and has no specific path. When I feel like quitting, I’ll refer back to this book for guidance.
jamie gordon –
26 March 23rd’s ago I lost my mom. This is a grown folks real raw emotion book. I appreciated the author bearing her soul.
Nikki Kelly –
This book helped me through grieving my mom and I recommend it for anyone who freshly lost their mom it helps
Vivabohdi –
This was a good book and I related to A LOT of what she talked about especially on her Moms side of the family. I totally get her story!!
D. LaValley –
Very good read. Helped me to think I am not alone in my feelings. My Mom died 4 months ago. Hardest road I’ve ever been on.
Catherine –
Gosh — where do I start! My mom died as well and this was the perfect book to read to help cope with my grief.
Brucee Denise –
I read this book in less than a day…I couldn’t put it down! Thank you for writing what meaning of us motherless daughters experienced & feel daily! Once again, thank you Ty
Kindle Customer –
Ty Alexander brilliant writing had made me her new BFF and biggest fan. She has the ability to open the front door of her world and invite you in.
Tricia –
Very personal account of the author’s mother’s death. I was moved, unfortunately relatable for me.
Lady Librarian –
I love the author’s honesty. This book reads like you are in conversation with a friend and she is telling you what you need to know before experience deep lost. I lost a spouse and this book really resonates with me. She is right that, as you go through it, you can grow through it. I will be recommending this book very highly.
V. V. W. –
Informative
Romantic at Heart –
This book has helped so MUCH. My heart was broken April 27th, I knew I needed help with my grief. I knew there was 2 ways I could handle it. This book helped me get on the path and journey to help heal and not get lost in the grief. Ty, I am grateful. Honoring my Mom’s memory and helping my family heal is a purpose I will treasure.
DD –
In just 2 short weeks I will relive the death of my mother for the 7th year. Reading this book felt like a warm hug. I appreciate the transparency, the vulnerability, and the honest perspective on what it’s like to continue to live, grow, and even flourish after surviving what might have killed you, if love did not prevail!Thank you Ty!!!Sincerely,DD , The Hope Reviver @thoughts_by_d
cheryl johnson –
Loving this book. Her story hits home in my heart. Im going thriugh the motions. Tough to read but its helping me grieve.
Donna DeeDee Williams –
I love this book the writer speaks to me with her experience and she understands what it feels like to travel this journey. Please read this book and get it for your friends who have lost their mother. They will thank you.
Amazon Customer –
When I think of home,_________________________________After twenty years of anguish, someone could relate and articulated, what I prized possession I once was. The honesty shared in her text reminded me of a cockatoo I once had as a child, and the encouragement of freedom of thought unencumbered by any headwinds, soaring in the undercurrent beneath her wings, and as I write this, I also remembered the clipping of my birds wings, I was told it was so he wouldn’t, fly away, once let him in the house. I believed his wings were clipped twice, something about the process I didn’t like, I think it was taking my bird into such cold room and seeing the examinations on that cold stainless steel table, of course I never saw the actual clippings, but I knew something about the vet’s office or to the phrase wing clippings, hell I hated when my mom clipped my nails, it hurt. My wings healed they grow back. I’m reminded of the opening song in The Wiz, but I’m glad to know that it’s there, this feeling that we have, don’t lose the feeling that we had. Home hasn’t always easily remembered that tenderly. Things I wish I knew before my mother died, knocked down walls I had no idea were there. Therapists, can in most cases totally forgo the stages of grief, and because they’re out of their depth or it’s not their specialty, which you won’t find out until a year later, or the basketball scholarship only extends to sweet talk and manipulation, Coach Wells that’d be you. Walkthrough the stages of grief, to get to your new Tribe.
DocFabulous –
The best thing about the book is you feel SO connected to the author! She writes the book in a way that makes you feel like she is sitting in the room next to having a personal convo. Its so comforting! It helps you remember that you are NOT alone in your grief. Everyone has lost someone so everyone can relate no matter who it is that you have lost. The hole you feel in your heart is in fact an experience that others can relate to. The love and adoration she has for her mother is so clear and so beautiful. Bravo to this author that can capture human connection and emotion using words on a page! Get this book….and def recommend it to a friend who needs it!
Satisfied customer –
Really a great deal of wisdom but I suggest anyone more than 40 or who has a problem with blue language start page 97, and when you finish the book go back to the beginning if you can take the language The reviews I read on Amazon were correct that, but I am very pleased and grateful that I read the book
Katherine –
I read this beautiful book in two days! I couldn’t more like I didn’t want to put it down. I find nothing really lessens my grief and the heartbreaking loss of my Mom but this book helped me to know I’m not alone and normal for feeling this way. Thank you Ty Alexander!
R.J. Davis –
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Amazon Customer –
This book is great! I lost my mom 3 months ago and the grief process is…difficult is putting it lightly. This book is helping me understand that it’s ok for me to be mad, or depressed because it’s all apart of my process. I’ve never lost anyone prior to my mom so my emotions attached to death were foreign to me. Ty’s book has helped me to understand that what I feel or don’t feel is ok. Thank you Ty for being so honest and raw in this book.Maria
shopper –
I have lost my best friend, my mother also. Ty describes so many of the emotions and fears without being preachy. I finished this beautiful book in one day. Unfortunately my circle of great friends have lost their wonderful moms too,each one of these angels is getting a copy of this great book. Thank you Ty.
Beth Ann Arrigo –
Powerful!!
Eve –
This book has help me understand many things about the loss of my mom, who also died of cancer like the author’s mom. I feel like it has helped me in the healing process. There’s a lot of similarities in my life with the author’s life.
JerzeegirlveronicaJerzeegirlveronica –
Thanks Ty for being so real. You captured my attention intitally with your mom’s photo, your book title, and Chestertown. Thank you for the connection as a college student in your town. I know your family and so proud and pleased that you did not sugar coat your feeling. Losing my mother to cancer and being the splitting image of her as the saying goes has been hard for me. For you it was the awesome Eastern shore crab cakes for me it was mom’s wings and collard greens ! I laughed and cried as I read your book and thank God for giving you the talent snd endurance to share Denny with all of us. Beautiful she was and beautiful she is in you. Cancer can drive us to face the challenge of something and strive to beat something!! Love and continued success for you….Veronica (Formerly Veronica Sisco), Houston, TX
Chantaya K. –
“Things I wish I knew Before My Mom Died” is an excellent book to help move there the stages of coping with loss. I am a social worker and understand the stages of grief. However, Ty Alexander book helped me realize we all deal with grief differently and that’s okay. Ty lives in her truth and that’s what makes the book authentic. It truly helped me get through this first holiday season without my day.
Melissa Briggs –
What a great read for motherless daughters
Amazon Customer –
I lost my mom to cancer 5 months ago at 20 . This book evokes all my feelings